You know how as a man you make a great friend and you enjoy them and their company, then you decide to get the wives together and your wife meets him and they guy is as awesome as you made him out to be. Then you meet the wife……… and she’s fine….but that’s it…just fine. You get in the car and you enjoy the night but you’re a little disappointed that the wives did not jive. Still love the guy, and the guys still hit it off but it’s just not the same. Same things with ladies. Your wife finds a best friend and she is awesome, but the husband is just okay or even kinda weird.
If this has never happened to you and you have never had this conversation with your spouse, then you may be that person… And there is a good possibility that I am “that guy” for some couples because I ask a lot of questions and I am very forward. To some people that’s uncomfortable. But when you find that couple, you get in the car and you are excited and you say “they are so…normal”. It is so much fun and so life-giving. You find someone you can talk through parenting details about and discuss the troubles you are having and you know no judgment will be passed. You can discuss kids, business, struggles, food and sex all in the same conversation. It’s so good!
A couple that you can show up at their house wearing gym clothes or wedding clothes and it’s the same. Couples that you sit down with after dinner and just talk. There is a flow in the conversation and you never even notice it’s 12:37 am. Couples you can vacation with. Couples you feel comfortable leaving your kids with overnight if the need should arise.
There are not many out there. And it’s ok that you don’t have 14 couple friends like that because not all couples connect in that way. Two, three, or four different couples is a good amount. They are the type of people you make time to see. Those are hard to find, but when you find them, cultivate the relationship and value it. Bless that couple, pray for that couple, and let them know you are praying for them.
We just recently took a trip to Mexico with two of our couple friends that we love and value. We rented a house and had a private chef come in and we did nothing at all. We went on a boat one day and went to dinner one night, but overall we did nothing but relax and enjoy each other. No kids, just the 6 of us. We took pictures and sat around the fire and watched the most majestic sunset on the planet. We laughed and talked about serious issues all in the same conversation.
We love them. We talk weekly or sometimes daily. We tell them we love them, we ask about their kids and they ask about ours. They are special. My prayer for you and myself is that we don’t take them for granted and take advantage of the time we can spend with them and the other couples we would put in that category.
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