No matter what kind of relationship you are in, you express and receive love every day. The five love languages is a popular topic explaining everything there is to know about this exchange. Most people have probably heard of it or read the book because they are looking to learn more about the ways they give and receive love. I discovered this concept by reading the book which was really wonderful!
The author Gary Chapman talks all about the five love languages as follows: words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. These unique styles of communication can be interpreted and then provide solutions for partners emotional needs that aren’t always met. Chapman developed the languages during his experience with marriage counseling and linguistics. The book is a great read for anyone. Whether you’re in a relationship or not, I definitely recommend it!
Through my discovery of the love languages, I decided to take the quiz myself as well as my wife Jackie, to find out how ours rank accordingly. I continue to strive to make my marriage a priority and find ways to strengthen and improve it. Sometimes fun tools like this can be all we needed to spark new ideas for better communication and stronger bonding.
Cultivating a successful marriage takes hard work, dedication, and devotion.
My commitment to running Table & Thyme and Mealfit takes up a lot of my attention and devotion, so it’s important I focus on directing some of that energy to fulfilling my wife’s love languages every time I can. She will always be a priority in my life, so it’s crucial to express that to the best of my ability.
This book was so helpful in understanding how my wife and I value certain communication styles. After taking the test, we weren’t surprised at how different our results were. My top two results, which of course happened to be her lowest ranking ones, are physical touch and acts of service. Jackie’s top two were gifts and quality time.
This difference definitely caused some communication issues for us in the beginning stages of dating. Despite our differences, I was able to use the results going forward and determine ways I could speak her top ranking love languages. As parents, we still want to prioritize time like this for each other outside of the energy we devote to our kids.
With her top two being gifts and quality time, I wanted to find a way to combine both languages with one consistent action. I came up with the idea to take my wife on over 40 dates last year! This was a great way to combine the physical gift of buying her a nice dinner and spend quality time just the two of us. This experience was amazing for both of us, not just because of the great food and drinks. These dates helped keep things fun while fulfilling those giving and receiving styles.
Now that I’ve found on way to successfully speak my spouse’s love languages, the task at hand is to be consistent! I’m always reading interesting books and looking at tools to better different areas of my life, but the Five Love Languages is one that definitely stood out amongst the rest. I will continue to utilize this in my marriage for better and better results! Learn more about the languages here or read the book for a more in-depth understanding.
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